April 22nd 2009, a Colorado man was convicted of first degree murder and a hate crime for killing what he thought was his ‘female’ date. Just last week a transgendered man went on a radio show and released a diss track against Chingy the rapper claiming to have slept with Chingy a few times. My question for you all is this; is it OK for a transgendered person to NOT tell their date, partner, lover, or interest about their TRUE gender and identity? People are jailed all the time for falsifying and forging documents and people with the AIDS virus are prosecuted for not telling their partners they are infected. If this is the case why are we prosecuting those that have reacted to the un-imaginable, why is it murder and not manslaughter, why am I even writing about this now and how come legislators haven’t mentioned this already?
Don’t get me wrong, this is NOT about straight vs homosexual, this is about falsifying an identity. That is truly fraud, in my opinion. I am not homophobic by any means and know many homosexual people that I consider friends and family. The key to this is knowing they are homosexual, not knowing wouldn’t be so bad either, I suppose, if they are who they are (Popeye). But for someone to change their gender, meet a person, get to know them in all aspects that a person gets to know one in a relationship without telling them the TRUTH is a BLATANT LIE AND IS FRAUD! To prevent transgenders from being murdered out of a natural reaction, especially for males with high levels of testosterone and pride, I believe indicating your TRUE gender should be THE LAW! This would give those that potentially can be duped into thinking the person is, in fact who they say they are a chance to decide if they want to move forward or not…hey it’s their business and should be their decision. To act like a female but really be male or vice versa is morally wrong in every way, form, or fashion. And for people to be prosecuted to the full extent of the law with NO leniency is absurd!
That transsexual rapper is lucky Chingy didn’t body him (No pun intended)! Seriously though, he is truly lucky. Transgenders are killed all the time, NOT because they are drag queens or butch dykes – but because they are LIARS! We have all seen Ace Ventura Pet detective, all the men on their wanted the head lady cop only to find out she was a MAN in the end. Ask yourself, if you were intimate with someone only to find out they were not truly who they say they are in terms of gender, would that NOT send you over the edge? How is this a hate crime when the motive doesn’t match, we aren’t talking about people that are going out in the public preying on the homosexual, bi-sexual or transgendered. We are talking about people that were lied to mentally, emotionally and most important of all PHYSICALLY! We are sending people to jail that either were looking for some fun, to start a relationship and/or maybe even to start a family. By not telling a person you are not the gender you appear to be is so wrong I can’t begin to fathom how this has been let go all these years under the guise of a ‘hate crime.’
The media keeps portraying these liars as victims when the true victims are the ones that gave of themselves only to be lead on and lied to. These are the ones that need the emotional support and counseling, these are the ones that should get lighter sentences and leniency for reacting naturally. The liars should be prosecuted just like those who steal identities, falsify documents, commit fraud, purgery, and pass on the aids virus without letting their partners know. To not be told is NOT consent, because the transgendered know that most will not accept them as transgendered they lie and this country protects that? Sometimes this country is so ASS BACKWARDS (no pun intended) that they protect the criminals and lock up those that, for the umpteenth time I’ve said in this blog, are THE VICTIMS!!!
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Friday, April 24, 2009
Monday, April 20, 2009
African-American Relations as I see it
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So my little sister at Eastern CT State University asked me to blog about what it is that African-American (I use this term loosely – Blog for another day) men want from there African-American girlfriends. She asked me to do this as she gets asked all the time by her friends who, I am assuming, want to figure out why black men aren’t treating them as there number one, in terms of being faithful and taking care of home. Very good choice of topic sis!
First and foremost let me say this before I go any further, I love black women and they have always been my favorite flavor. Unfortunately, my brother and I, both, have peers that have deterred from black women being there favorite flavor. According to the feedback I've received from some of my fellow black men below are some of the reasons they DON'T like dating/dealing with black women.
“Black women are too much drama; they don’t take care of us like Latino and white women do; we don’t like their stink ass attitudes.” These are just to name a few of course.
Now I can agree with them in the sense that black women have been known to be a little difficult to deal with for these very reasons; however, this does not mean that EVERY black women is nuts! I am currently dating a woman that is very intelligent, passive in the sense that she isn’t a drama queen, nor does she hit me with what Mr. Vegas calls the 5W’s.
What are you doing? Who are you screwing? Why are you lying? When was the last time I took her shopping (oh I can’t take this nagging)? Then they wanna know, Who is that? Where I’m at? Then it's WHAT…When will you be back? He then procedes to say, "sometimes you know I’m scared to go home, so I don’t even answer my phone b/c of the 5W’s!"
Honestly ladies, I really do not know what black men want. However, I do have the following suggestions:
Refrain from hitting men with the 5W’s, a little trust goes along way.
Come to the realization that MOST – not all but MOST black men cheat, I haven’t met one that doesn’t or known one that doesn’t unless they are a cornball.
Either accept it or go and get you a cornball! The young lady I’m dating kept it 100 with me, “I know your going to do your thing, as long as I don’t find out about it, it isn’t a co-worker or ex girlfriend, it isn’t a full on affair, and you take care of home…enjoy it BUT DON’T BRING ME ANYTHING!” This was and still is very shocking to me, that a woman would tell me to go ahead and do me, but at the end of the day in a sense she has come to grips with the way men are and decided that she was either going to accept it OR go and get herself a cornball.
Stop talking down to your men and uplift them by motivating them to get up and get a JOB! Most of you are dating losers for men, to be quite frank. There is a problem with most women wanting what hiphop culture has glorified…a ‘thug’.
Now let's back track, I want to define a cornball quickly for you while I’m here. A cornball, for instance, is if my fellas and I go to the strip club or a party and are trying to have some fun but all he’s worried about is being in a ‘relationship’ and going home to ‘wifey!’
Human beings aren’t monogamous creatures and with all the gorgeous women in the world it doesn’t hurt to look at the menu, of course some also order appetizers! Most cornballs are with women that cheat anyway or eventually cheat on them because they are cornballs – in this world EVERYTHING balances out!
I also want to touch more on the Suggestion #4, even before hiphop, women were attracted to the rugged type of men. For instance, my mom and dad. Find someone that can and will bring equality to your relationship because there aren’t too many drug dealers out there that are smart enough to sustain themselves.
You should get to a certain age where you out grow that mentality and look at other factors. Instead of saying ‘What do men want?’ say to yourself, ‘What do I wan’t? What am I looking for out of a relationship?’ then and only then can you truly find your place. Do you want a man that you have to constantly take care of financially? Do you want a leech, baby can I get 20 dollars? Baby I need to re-up, let me get a stack? WTF, NO you don’t, or at least you shouldn't, want that!
I’m sure you want a house, you want to travel, you want to go places and do things – I bet most of the men you are dating aren’t really keeping up with much. The problem with my dad and most men is that we become complacent very easily – on top of the fact that we want to live a young man's fast life, even after we hit retirement. The reason we can do this is because women allow it, you need to change the cycle now if you are ever going to have a fulfilling relationship with a black man.
I don’t know if I got anywhere with this or answered any of your questions about black men and what you need to do to please them this summer but the truth of the matter is we are dogs, that cannot be denied. Just remember, acceptance is the key and every dog can be trained to a certain extent. As females there is a certain self-respect you should have. I personally believe, going out and being a female dog takes away from that self-respect.
Accept us for what we are and gauge it accordingly. If you raise your self-expectations you will end up dating a man that isn’t as bad as the rest, I suppose in theory. And for the black men out there like my friends and my little brother and his friends, there are some good black women out there, I know you love the bunnies and the Spanish wet, or what I like to call the Spanish Fly trap, but trust me Black women are where it's at. I think both genders need to meet half way on this and learn compromise…compromise and communication are key!
Twitter.com/ShelbyWu – Go get yourself a twitter people!!!
So my little sister at Eastern CT State University asked me to blog about what it is that African-American (I use this term loosely – Blog for another day) men want from there African-American girlfriends. She asked me to do this as she gets asked all the time by her friends who, I am assuming, want to figure out why black men aren’t treating them as there number one, in terms of being faithful and taking care of home. Very good choice of topic sis!
First and foremost let me say this before I go any further, I love black women and they have always been my favorite flavor. Unfortunately, my brother and I, both, have peers that have deterred from black women being there favorite flavor. According to the feedback I've received from some of my fellow black men below are some of the reasons they DON'T like dating/dealing with black women.
“Black women are too much drama; they don’t take care of us like Latino and white women do; we don’t like their stink ass attitudes.” These are just to name a few of course.
Now I can agree with them in the sense that black women have been known to be a little difficult to deal with for these very reasons; however, this does not mean that EVERY black women is nuts! I am currently dating a woman that is very intelligent, passive in the sense that she isn’t a drama queen, nor does she hit me with what Mr. Vegas calls the 5W’s.
What are you doing? Who are you screwing? Why are you lying? When was the last time I took her shopping (oh I can’t take this nagging)? Then they wanna know, Who is that? Where I’m at? Then it's WHAT…When will you be back? He then procedes to say, "sometimes you know I’m scared to go home, so I don’t even answer my phone b/c of the 5W’s!"
Honestly ladies, I really do not know what black men want. However, I do have the following suggestions:
Refrain from hitting men with the 5W’s, a little trust goes along way.
Come to the realization that MOST – not all but MOST black men cheat, I haven’t met one that doesn’t or known one that doesn’t unless they are a cornball.
Either accept it or go and get you a cornball! The young lady I’m dating kept it 100 with me, “I know your going to do your thing, as long as I don’t find out about it, it isn’t a co-worker or ex girlfriend, it isn’t a full on affair, and you take care of home…enjoy it BUT DON’T BRING ME ANYTHING!” This was and still is very shocking to me, that a woman would tell me to go ahead and do me, but at the end of the day in a sense she has come to grips with the way men are and decided that she was either going to accept it OR go and get herself a cornball.
Stop talking down to your men and uplift them by motivating them to get up and get a JOB! Most of you are dating losers for men, to be quite frank. There is a problem with most women wanting what hiphop culture has glorified…a ‘thug’.
Now let's back track, I want to define a cornball quickly for you while I’m here. A cornball, for instance, is if my fellas and I go to the strip club or a party and are trying to have some fun but all he’s worried about is being in a ‘relationship’ and going home to ‘wifey!’
Human beings aren’t monogamous creatures and with all the gorgeous women in the world it doesn’t hurt to look at the menu, of course some also order appetizers! Most cornballs are with women that cheat anyway or eventually cheat on them because they are cornballs – in this world EVERYTHING balances out!
I also want to touch more on the Suggestion #4, even before hiphop, women were attracted to the rugged type of men. For instance, my mom and dad. Find someone that can and will bring equality to your relationship because there aren’t too many drug dealers out there that are smart enough to sustain themselves.
You should get to a certain age where you out grow that mentality and look at other factors. Instead of saying ‘What do men want?’ say to yourself, ‘What do I wan’t? What am I looking for out of a relationship?’ then and only then can you truly find your place. Do you want a man that you have to constantly take care of financially? Do you want a leech, baby can I get 20 dollars? Baby I need to re-up, let me get a stack? WTF, NO you don’t, or at least you shouldn't, want that!
I’m sure you want a house, you want to travel, you want to go places and do things – I bet most of the men you are dating aren’t really keeping up with much. The problem with my dad and most men is that we become complacent very easily – on top of the fact that we want to live a young man's fast life, even after we hit retirement. The reason we can do this is because women allow it, you need to change the cycle now if you are ever going to have a fulfilling relationship with a black man.
I don’t know if I got anywhere with this or answered any of your questions about black men and what you need to do to please them this summer but the truth of the matter is we are dogs, that cannot be denied. Just remember, acceptance is the key and every dog can be trained to a certain extent. As females there is a certain self-respect you should have. I personally believe, going out and being a female dog takes away from that self-respect.
Accept us for what we are and gauge it accordingly. If you raise your self-expectations you will end up dating a man that isn’t as bad as the rest, I suppose in theory. And for the black men out there like my friends and my little brother and his friends, there are some good black women out there, I know you love the bunnies and the Spanish wet, or what I like to call the Spanish Fly trap, but trust me Black women are where it's at. I think both genders need to meet half way on this and learn compromise…compromise and communication are key!
Twitter.com/ShelbyWu – Go get yourself a twitter people!!!
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