"LIKE A BOY"

What to write about today was the question that I mulled over all week. As versatile as I want to be to provide a variety of topics for you -- it's hard to just write about one thing especially when I want to write about EVERYTHING! Anywho, today I decided to cover how gender roles have been blurred and in some cases reversed amongst males and females.

Growing up it was very obvious that men weren't faithful, I mean come on, coming from a family of 17 (dad has 7 baby mothers) it was obvious and very natural to see that he was far from faithful. With that being said the first question you may have is well, did your mother stay with him? Yes she did, and she had 10 kids by him and YES they are still married.

Even though my dad was unfaithful, my mother NEVER cheated on him. In my eyes, as a young naive boy growing up, I guess, subconsciously I figured by turning the other cheek she maintained herself respect as a woman and mother. See many of us (especially nowadays) believe in an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.

Most of you are familiar with Ciara's hit single "Like A Boy" and it is that song that I choose to use as an example of how roles have been blurred. Times have changed, as change is life's only constant and with that change women have become more confident as well as more comfortable with the "It was just sex" attitude. Nowadays, if a guy cheats he won't be as lucky as my father, women are sneakier and in some cases more promiscuous than men are.

This "dating" game is saturated due to the fact that most people cannot remain faithful. But, truthfully why should they? It's not like human beings are monogamous creatures, so why is sex frowned upon. Especially when a woman is so open about it? For the fellas out there that are meeting new women look at it like this, you can meet a girl and assume that she has slept with say...a handful of guys but the truth is IF YOU have a track record why wouldn't SHE?

Ludacris said "We want a lady in the street but a freak in the bed" but that just isn't the case. The truth is MOST women are freaks, men wish they could tame it just for the bedroom but THEY have needs too. The old adage is if you can't take it don't dish it and THAT is the BIGGEST problem with guys, we want to be dirt digglers but a lot of us are ignorant that females can be too!

King Solomon had 500 wives, historically men are used to having more than one female but now females are used to having more than one male. They have taken the game over and because of this men have become soft -- almost lady like as women have been acting more "like a boy."

My question for the females out there (feel free to answer in a comment :) is well if you guys are used to calling us "dogs", and you want to act like a boy...then doesn't that make you a female dog i.e. a BITCH?

The fact of the matter is, in this world of technology, racy songs, movies, and society in general sex cannot be suppressed. It is out in the open and is being flaunted on every avenue up the strip and it isn't going anywhere. Does the promiscuity of women take away from them being a "lady" per se? And for the fellas out there that are so jealous and insecure does that make them almost if not fully soft or girl like? I mean, isn't jealousy "a female trait?"

I don't know where I'm going with this blog today to tell you the truth. I personally know a lot of girls that have slept with 10 - 20 guys before they even hit the age of 21! Can you imagine what its like b/w 21 and 30? And what about the poor sucker that feels he's met "the one" not knowing of his woman's deep dark past? Can a guy be informed of his woman's past and accept it? Should the truth be spoken? Do things in the dark really come to light?

And last but not least, have women become more promiscuous due to guys like my dad that were/are always popcorn playas? Is this cause and effect? Because of this will you, I, or anyone else ever be content with marriage? Can a male or female REALLY be faithful in this untrustworthy day and age?

I asked a lot of general questions today, I don't have all the answers and a lot of what I speak of is unfounded and just my mere opinion. The point is to open a dialog as I hope to get feedback from both genders to see if we are really different or INdifferent.

Later People! And Happy Birthday to CCC :)