It's been a few months since I've last blogged and a lot has happened, lately, with my peers, comrades,...etc.
I watched a video on the internet today of a police officer jumping out of his vehicle to harrass some young niggaz (yeah I used the N word) b/c one of them was sagging, showing off 4-5 inches of his boxers. Now some of you may be against sagging and/or showing your underwear but that's a blog for another day.
As the officer went on his tirade throwing his weight around the young man, at the hood of the cop car, basically made it a racial profiling thing. The officer said look me in the eye and say that, as the young man looked him in the eye the officer shoved him by the throat and arrested him for disorderly conduct...BULLSHIT! I became enraged, playing over and over and over again in my head how many times I have personally witnessed similar things. In disgust I wondered how such a thing could be placed on the internet; yet, no recourse for that young man, that had to go to jail because of a hating ass insecure cop that preys on the youth due to their own ignorance, has been made.
Tonight, I watched a movie 'Young Cesar.' The gist of the movie is about two brothers whose father was incarcerated. Cesar, the older brother, is up to his head in drugs with a pusher that set his dad up and ultimately set him up. Cesar, his little brothers keeper, did his best to keep his brother out of that life and in amateur boxing. Subsequently, his boss put a hit out on him that went wrong and Cesar in the end killed him, causing him to go to jail.
The difficult/emotional part, for me, was seeing Cesar's dad be released from prison as he entered it. You see, that deal was to be Cesar's last. His girl told him she was pregnant and he wanted to be there for his child so he was quitting the game...that never happened. DEA agents had a snitch that recorded the whole drug deal. At that point, Cesar traded places with his father.
This movie is just a fictional tale of many real instances that go on similarly every damn day and I'm tired. Two niggaz I know recently went down for a homicide, one of them has a beautiful little girl...she may never have a functioning relationship with him.
Last week, another nigga I know was shot dead, police reported to the shooting. When they found nothing they left only to be called back the next morning and discover his body. He was killed on his 26th birthday.
Another really close friend of mine is in the halfway house ready to be free, only to get caught up in the cycle of life before he returns to jail. His little brother, the LAST person I would ever want to see go to jail will be going in for 18 months.
Another one of my niggaz got 5 years, he violated probation when the police beat him up, he has 3 kids. Another one of my niggaz violated almost a year ago when he was beat up ON CAMERA by the police, he's completing a 5 year bid too. He, also, has a little boy.
I'm so sick and tired of seeing this happen over and over again to black people, whether it be black on black crime or us against the man, it's a constant struggle. I'm one of the only ones to make it out with absolutely no criminal record and somehow that makes me feel guilty that I didn't share their fate.
I'm not a big Lil' Wayne fan, but he sings the hook on The Games 'My Life' track. That hook is so deep it sends chills up my spine everytime I hear it.
"I'm grindin til I'm tired of this/They say you ain't grinding til you tired/so I'm grinding with my eyes wide/looking to find a way through the day/A life for the night/Dear Lord you done took so many of my people I'm just wonderin why you haven't taken my life?/Like what the hell ain't I doing right?"
The cycle of black lives lost is devastating: death, prison, and children with absent mothers and fathers...it's really starting to jerk at my heart.
My little brother just barely got into college. Most of his friends don't have much of a future, unfortunately. He, like me, just barely made it out by the skin of his teeth.
Often times I debate with a friend of mine regarding the 'black' experience. This is most times a huge part of that debate.
I called this Blog 'BLACK: The Gift and the Curse' because for some reason, it seems we are cursed, the only gift is for those like myself that have made it out, at least for the mean time.
For my cursed brothers and sisters out there I feel your pain and I wish it wasn't like this...damn why does it have to be like this?
Those of y'all locked up hold ya head, and for those fallen soldiers may all of you RIP.
Friday, September 19, 2008
Wednesday, June 11, 2008
COLORED JUSTICE
I was reading an article on BET.com as my work day was winding down. Since my first week of blogging I have become uninspired to write anything else. I have read different things on the web since Friday searching for that next thing to write about...finally I found it!
For YEARS I have LITERALLY watched EACH AND EVERY SINGLE ONE OF MY CLOSE FRIENDS get arrested (MOST FOR DRUG OFFENSES). I am the ONLY one that hasn't, technically I am a minority amongst minorities...
Most black kids don't realize how the system is setup to get them. It isn't a sytem that seeks justice, moreso a system that seeks COLORED JUSTICE. What makes me say that? FACTS!
FACTS:
- In MOST states half a gram of Crack Cocaine (minority drug) carries a minimum STANDARD sentence of 2 years in jail.
- To get the STANDARD sentence of Cocaine (which is a luxury drug) you would have to get caught with 14 times that amount or 14 grams worth of cocaine.
- Due to this lopsided imbalance minorities blacks/hispanics have been jailed at record numbers even though it is well known that white people make up the majority of drug abusers/users.
If thats the case, how is that possible you ask? Simple, put all the black people in over crowded areas, The Willie Lynch speech (look it up!), keep em supressed, provide them with drugs and guns (which we don't manufacture, yet we lead when it comes to incarceration!?)
This is a MAJOR...MAJOR problem. More and more kids are getting arrested, coming home, on probation and going back to do the same stupid thing....I guess ignorance truly is bliss...but gosh is ignorance blind as well?
Is there no real justice? What are the odds that the D-Tec's/Narcs hop out on a black man and not arrest, search him? Shit, I'm one of the only ones and thats b/c I am a VERY good chameleon.
There really is no end to this particular blog, more so me getting back on the good foot. So I will leave you with this..."FTP -- FUCK THE POLICE!"
PS: We may say black people need to do better, or that we can do better. But how is that possible when the devil keeps finding work for our idle hands as my mother would say...of course the devil being the quote on quote "white man?"
"COLORED JUSTICE"
The BET article I read outlined a MAJOR problem that I have personally beared witness to, as recent as yesterday. Before I go into the article I would like to tell you about my experience yesterday morning. While out on my morning stroll, the sun was shining bright so to keep the son out of my eye I had my fitted on pulled really low. As I walked AGAINST traffic, out the corner of my eye (looking @ the ground as I walked), I noticed a white car pull up right next to me. I looked up and....thats right it was them BOYZ (slang for police lol). They were in an umarked vehicle and didn't hesitate to hop out on me. Naturally this is a shock but as many times as I have had to deal with the police, in my life, it was more so standard procedure in my neighborhood I guess (being a black man of course). Long story short, the D-tec's let me go after checking my ID.
This is a perfect example of the quote on quote "racial profiling" that is a part of the "black experience" (blog for another day). Three white guys hop out on a young black professional, such as myself, in a minority filled neighborhood due to me dressing down to go to work...In other words if I had on my khakis/shoes/button up with no fitted then maybe I could have gotten away but I didn't, so I didn't lol!
Anyhow, now back to the article...did you know that the United States of America leads the world with people being incarcerated? Thats right, according to BET.com the USA has 2.3 million people in prison! However, the USA doesn't incarcerate PEOPLE like they do BLACK PEOPLE! According to the Justice Department, there is a major racial imbalance with the U.S. prison population (go figure). "African-American's" (aka black folks I'm uncomfortable associating myself as African-American) outnumber whites in jail 6 to 1. Black men out number white males 10 to 1.
According to Human Rights Watch, blacks in the USA are 12 times more likely to be sent to jail for drug related crimes than their white counterparts. The wild part about this FACT is that whites are the majority of drug abusers/users but BLACK people make up 54% of all people entering prison with NEW drug offense convictions!
For YEARS I have LITERALLY watched EACH AND EVERY SINGLE ONE OF MY CLOSE FRIENDS get arrested (MOST FOR DRUG OFFENSES). I am the ONLY one that hasn't, technically I am a minority amongst minorities...
Most black kids don't realize how the system is setup to get them. It isn't a sytem that seeks justice, moreso a system that seeks COLORED JUSTICE. What makes me say that? FACTS!
FACTS:
- In MOST states half a gram of Crack Cocaine (minority drug) carries a minimum STANDARD sentence of 2 years in jail.
- To get the STANDARD sentence of Cocaine (which is a luxury drug) you would have to get caught with 14 times that amount or 14 grams worth of cocaine.
- Due to this lopsided imbalance minorities blacks/hispanics have been jailed at record numbers even though it is well known that white people make up the majority of drug abusers/users.
If thats the case, how is that possible you ask? Simple, put all the black people in over crowded areas, The Willie Lynch speech (look it up!), keep em supressed, provide them with drugs and guns (which we don't manufacture, yet we lead when it comes to incarceration!?)
This is a MAJOR...MAJOR problem. More and more kids are getting arrested, coming home, on probation and going back to do the same stupid thing....I guess ignorance truly is bliss...but gosh is ignorance blind as well?
Is there no real justice? What are the odds that the D-Tec's/Narcs hop out on a black man and not arrest, search him? Shit, I'm one of the only ones and thats b/c I am a VERY good chameleon.
There really is no end to this particular blog, more so me getting back on the good foot. So I will leave you with this..."FTP -- FUCK THE POLICE!"
PS: We may say black people need to do better, or that we can do better. But how is that possible when the devil keeps finding work for our idle hands as my mother would say...of course the devil being the quote on quote "white man?"
Friday, June 6, 2008
PUBLIC AFFECTION: How Much Is To Much
Public displays of affection: to be or not to be, to watch or not to watch, THAT is the question!
If you are someone, like myself, who is in the I'm Not Affection "clique" then the answer to that question is NOT. However, you may ride the fence, eventhough I am always told that you can't, and decide that it's not your thing but what the hell "I'll watch," I don't mind a 'lil amateur porn.
It seems that in a day and age where the majority of people meet their "soul mates" in untraditional places: such as on dating websites, Myspace, chat rooms...etc., that public displays of affection would take a backseat to casual conversation. This, however, has not happened. More and more people are groping, fondling, slobbing down, and doing everything under the sun, but having sex outside, to their significant other (or a stranger for that matter lol). Being from the city, I see a lot of this on the subways, at the bars, or just standing at the light. My question is what makes you think that it's okay to do that and why do you think the rest of the world wants to see it?
I have never been an affection person and probably never will be, especially not for the whole world to see. Now don't get me wrong, I am not saying that there is anything wrong with a subtle gesture of affection to the object of your affections but why would you want to show everybody passing by or standing around what being with you is like? Like a good friend always tells me, "Everything in moderation."
I've also noticed high school aged kids getting in on the action, hell they might be MOST of the action, and this is goes for the gay and straight ones. They are on the subways groping each other and tonguing each other down like they are in private bedrooms with the windows painted black. I wonder what their parents would say if they seen the way their kids behave in public. I mean just because you're fucking doesn't mean you have to let EVERYBODY KNOW you're fucking. And if you're not why would you want to give out the impression that you are? Old adage time: There is a TIME and a PLACE for everything? The subway cart, bar, nor corner IS one of them.
NOTE: If you don't take anything else away from this blog posting Learn, Love and Live by that phrase.
So to my readers I guess that leaves these questions for you to respond to: How much is to much for you? When, where, and what is appropriate? And does the watching someone "neck" while you're trying to read your book, drink your coffee, or watch a movie gross you out?
Today's Blog Posting was bought to you by:
Ladylovely
http://ladylovely.wordpress.com
~ KK-There can only be one me, and you love it! ~
If you are someone, like myself, who is in the I'm Not Affection "clique" then the answer to that question is NOT. However, you may ride the fence, eventhough I am always told that you can't, and decide that it's not your thing but what the hell "I'll watch," I don't mind a 'lil amateur porn.
It seems that in a day and age where the majority of people meet their "soul mates" in untraditional places: such as on dating websites, Myspace, chat rooms...etc., that public displays of affection would take a backseat to casual conversation. This, however, has not happened. More and more people are groping, fondling, slobbing down, and doing everything under the sun, but having sex outside, to their significant other (or a stranger for that matter lol). Being from the city, I see a lot of this on the subways, at the bars, or just standing at the light. My question is what makes you think that it's okay to do that and why do you think the rest of the world wants to see it?
I have never been an affection person and probably never will be, especially not for the whole world to see. Now don't get me wrong, I am not saying that there is anything wrong with a subtle gesture of affection to the object of your affections but why would you want to show everybody passing by or standing around what being with you is like? Like a good friend always tells me, "Everything in moderation."
I've also noticed high school aged kids getting in on the action, hell they might be MOST of the action, and this is goes for the gay and straight ones. They are on the subways groping each other and tonguing each other down like they are in private bedrooms with the windows painted black. I wonder what their parents would say if they seen the way their kids behave in public. I mean just because you're fucking doesn't mean you have to let EVERYBODY KNOW you're fucking. And if you're not why would you want to give out the impression that you are? Old adage time: There is a TIME and a PLACE for everything? The subway cart, bar, nor corner IS one of them.
NOTE: If you don't take anything else away from this blog posting Learn, Love and Live by that phrase.
So to my readers I guess that leaves these questions for you to respond to: How much is to much for you? When, where, and what is appropriate? And does the watching someone "neck" while you're trying to read your book, drink your coffee, or watch a movie gross you out?
Today's Blog Posting was bought to you by:
Ladylovely
http://ladylovely.wordpress.com
~ KK-There can only be one me, and you love it! ~
Thursday, June 5, 2008
"Difficult Takes a Day Impossible Takes a Week"
Somebody told me today that I like to be challenged...and because that statement is so true I almost couldn't figure out what it was I wanted to blog about "lmao I'm a blogger."
After yesterday's blog I found out that not only do people not care about whats important, but more so, that they just don't care anymore, period. It's not so much that I love being challenged but the fact that I can't stand being bored...my ASS just can't handle it!
I created this blog out of boredom and through boredom I have found a new way to not only challenge myself, but to also challenge the minds of my peers. That, to me is the MOST important thing, as we all exist in this world together. There is a scent in the air now and wherever I go it stinks...it's called "du ignorance es bliss..."
People have become so complacent, so set in their ways that we/they/us haven't been able to self-start, self-motivate, or self-evolve. We say that ignorance is bliss, but should it be? Why is it that people seem to feel so entitled to things that they aren't even willing to work for?
I meet person after person that says to me "thats why I need to get rich." Everyone wants to get rich but nobody wants to work for it.
Old adage time (lmao). As the saying goes "you are what you eat," right? Both males and females have dumbed themselves down to "fit in." A result of this is by not being able to self-start, self-motivate, and self-evolve it has caused them not to challenge themselves, their social circle, or their surroundings.
Me personally I have always been a sole believer in "you were born on your own and your going to die on your own." Regardless of who comes in your life its YOUR life to live. Stop sitting on the sideline and waiting for someone to get you to just do something with yourself!
While we're all out living life, taking chances, and furthering our lives, you're dumbing yourself down to fit in with everyone else. Challenge and surround yourself with those that can challenge you as well. Challenges are good to find out what you are truly capable of.
Side Note: I would like to take this opportunity to answer her question regarding "like a boy" that was left as a comment.
"FOR NOW I JUST HAVE 1 QUESTION, and I'm going to quote you: If "It's not like human beings are monogamous creatures" then why is it that men expect women to be faithful? I mean the last time I checked human beings included men AND women."
See this is where my rhetoric can get me in trouble, so I have to be very careful regarding my response. To be quite honest, we expect women to be faithful due to not accepting "change" as life's only constant. For years men have been the ones that were able to be polygamist. With the shift in time and "blurred roles" we just haven't accepted the fact that you guys are just as grimy as we are...but don't forget it still makes you in our eyes less of a lady.
Which is why a guy like me has to dumb himself down just to be in the game again. We can dish it as men but we damn sure cannot take it. Why the hell would we? Hell, its not our fault that women have put up with it for so long, hell if anything its your faults for letting us become so set in our ways for thousands of years.
I know this is a hypocritical statment considering my blog today but I'm human and I am a hypocrite hence ignorance being bliss when I know it shouldn't, hell that "stench" even reeks on me sometimes. The point is to be mindful, and even when we realize it we still say fuck it...lol...life life!
After yesterday's blog I found out that not only do people not care about whats important, but more so, that they just don't care anymore, period. It's not so much that I love being challenged but the fact that I can't stand being bored...my ASS just can't handle it!
I created this blog out of boredom and through boredom I have found a new way to not only challenge myself, but to also challenge the minds of my peers. That, to me is the MOST important thing, as we all exist in this world together. There is a scent in the air now and wherever I go it stinks...it's called "du ignorance es bliss..."
People have become so complacent, so set in their ways that we/they/us haven't been able to self-start, self-motivate, or self-evolve. We say that ignorance is bliss, but should it be? Why is it that people seem to feel so entitled to things that they aren't even willing to work for?
I meet person after person that says to me "thats why I need to get rich." Everyone wants to get rich but nobody wants to work for it.
Old adage time (lmao). As the saying goes "you are what you eat," right? Both males and females have dumbed themselves down to "fit in." A result of this is by not being able to self-start, self-motivate, and self-evolve it has caused them not to challenge themselves, their social circle, or their surroundings.
Me personally I have always been a sole believer in "you were born on your own and your going to die on your own." Regardless of who comes in your life its YOUR life to live. Stop sitting on the sideline and waiting for someone to get you to just do something with yourself!
While we're all out living life, taking chances, and furthering our lives, you're dumbing yourself down to fit in with everyone else. Challenge and surround yourself with those that can challenge you as well. Challenges are good to find out what you are truly capable of.
Side Note: I would like to take this opportunity to answer her question regarding "like a boy" that was left as a comment.
"FOR NOW I JUST HAVE 1 QUESTION, and I'm going to quote you: If "It's not like human beings are monogamous creatures" then why is it that men expect women to be faithful? I mean the last time I checked human beings included men AND women."
See this is where my rhetoric can get me in trouble, so I have to be very careful regarding my response. To be quite honest, we expect women to be faithful due to not accepting "change" as life's only constant. For years men have been the ones that were able to be polygamist. With the shift in time and "blurred roles" we just haven't accepted the fact that you guys are just as grimy as we are...but don't forget it still makes you in our eyes less of a lady.
Which is why a guy like me has to dumb himself down just to be in the game again. We can dish it as men but we damn sure cannot take it. Why the hell would we? Hell, its not our fault that women have put up with it for so long, hell if anything its your faults for letting us become so set in our ways for thousands of years.
I know this is a hypocritical statment considering my blog today but I'm human and I am a hypocrite hence ignorance being bliss when I know it shouldn't, hell that "stench" even reeks on me sometimes. The point is to be mindful, and even when we realize it we still say fuck it...lol...life life!
Wednesday, June 4, 2008
Barack Hussein Obama
As some of you MAY NOT KNOW we have our FIRST "BLACK" PRESIDENTIAL DEMOCRATIC NOMINEE! As I said, some of you may not know -- hell some of you may not even care. And for those of you that are unaware of this historical event, I bet you are the same ones that are unaware or could care less regarding the Sean Bell Case as well as other stories that have hit close to our culture. Shame on all of you for not being in the "know." Cut the shit, stop worrying about nonsense and become more mindful of the world we all live in.
I for one will be VERY honest, I WASN'T A BELIEVER! I figured the Clinton machine would tear him to shreds, for me it was a numbers game i.e. Bush, Clinton, Bush...Clint...wrong! This wasn't fill in the blank as I assumed (yes the ump tioned me lmao)
With Barack getting his 2,118 + votes needed to get the nomination Hillary Clinton finally lost. For a woman, I must admit, her courage is pretty impressive. She had been down and out for months now but fought hard and wouldn't concede by any means.
Some of you who know me will say, well as a Black man how come you didn't root for Obama? EASY, he's barely black! His mother is white and his father is African, hell he barely was able to vote considering he was born in Hawaii.
I wasn't the only one that doubted he could come this far, a lot of other black people across the nation also doubted him. How could we support him though? Granted he has done a lot of work in Chicago with a lot of minority communities. Bottom line is, he just cannot relate to the "black experience" (another blog for another day...wink).
This really isn't a politically driven blog as much as I aim to point out that Obama merely won due to his popularity. Neither he, nor Hillary is/was "qualified" enough for this position, however, they were popular enough. With her being a former first lady and him being an awesome public speaker people for once were excited about our upcoming 2008 elections.
What sucks is that in this day and age where leadership is needed we turn a blind eye to those who really understand and can execute Policies. We need a president that understands our International Political scene as well as our Domestic one. But we aren't going to get that, we got a barely American -- "African-American" (TRUE AFRICAN AMERICAN) who has won a nomination by simply stating "WE BELIEVE IN CHANGE." WOW!
What can I say, it's the same gullible idiots that voted bush in twice that have now gone on to get excited about a colored man who can speak well. At the end of the day life is a popularity contest, not one of smarts, intelligence, strength or know how. This is a life/world that rewards people who's reputations precede themselves...when it should be themselves that precede the reputation.
PS: I didn't go to deep into detail b/c even I know something like this can't hold your attention as most of you only care about the other crap I write about i.e. sex, relationships, bullshit and more bullshit.
I for one will be VERY honest, I WASN'T A BELIEVER! I figured the Clinton machine would tear him to shreds, for me it was a numbers game i.e. Bush, Clinton, Bush...Clint...wrong! This wasn't fill in the blank as I assumed (yes the ump tioned me lmao)
With Barack getting his 2,118 + votes needed to get the nomination Hillary Clinton finally lost. For a woman, I must admit, her courage is pretty impressive. She had been down and out for months now but fought hard and wouldn't concede by any means.
Some of you who know me will say, well as a Black man how come you didn't root for Obama? EASY, he's barely black! His mother is white and his father is African, hell he barely was able to vote considering he was born in Hawaii.
I wasn't the only one that doubted he could come this far, a lot of other black people across the nation also doubted him. How could we support him though? Granted he has done a lot of work in Chicago with a lot of minority communities. Bottom line is, he just cannot relate to the "black experience" (another blog for another day...wink).
This really isn't a politically driven blog as much as I aim to point out that Obama merely won due to his popularity. Neither he, nor Hillary is/was "qualified" enough for this position, however, they were popular enough. With her being a former first lady and him being an awesome public speaker people for once were excited about our upcoming 2008 elections.
What sucks is that in this day and age where leadership is needed we turn a blind eye to those who really understand and can execute Policies. We need a president that understands our International Political scene as well as our Domestic one. But we aren't going to get that, we got a barely American -- "African-American" (TRUE AFRICAN AMERICAN) who has won a nomination by simply stating "WE BELIEVE IN CHANGE." WOW!
What can I say, it's the same gullible idiots that voted bush in twice that have now gone on to get excited about a colored man who can speak well. At the end of the day life is a popularity contest, not one of smarts, intelligence, strength or know how. This is a life/world that rewards people who's reputations precede themselves...when it should be themselves that precede the reputation.
PS: I didn't go to deep into detail b/c even I know something like this can't hold your attention as most of you only care about the other crap I write about i.e. sex, relationships, bullshit and more bullshit.
Tuesday, June 3, 2008
I AM WHO I AM
I LOVE ME! I mean granted I have my ups and downs, but I still LOVE ME! I am far from perfect don't get me wrong -- but knowing that I am imperfect and accepting it gives me high self- esteem. Do you love yourself? Some people will put another person's happiness before their own. In this world of fast trends, mindless sheep and people wanting to be "in the know" no one is soaking up what it's like to live for now and embrace their individuality. A LOT of people want to live vicariously through other people and I find that sad.
Last night, one of my close friends and I kicked it on my veranda and chatted it up, as usual. Naturally, we discussed a wide range of topics. One of the many that we discussed was an ongoing "beef" in my neighborhood from rival clicks. He brought up the fact that we knew a few people that weren't these quote on quote "gun toting low-lives" when we were in high school, yet now they consider themselves as the big bad wolf. Lmao! That's when I used another individual that we knew as an example who would have NEVER in a million years smoked weed in high school yet now in 2008 he's this big weed dealer.
See the point is/was this, a lot of people are to busy trying to be someone else instead of just being themselves. The old adage is (I will always use adages FYI) "you couldn't walk a day in my shoes." My response to that is why the hell would I, or anyone for that matter, want to wear someone else's sweaty raggedy shoes...eewww lmao!
I have a new lady friend that called me a dork yesterday b/c I told her I was doing some reading on homo sapiens. I could have taken the dork comment negatively but I didn't, after all how many dorks can be as cool, suave, and smooth as I am? As a young teen I never succumbed to peer pressure, sometimes my friends would call me a pussy, punk or sissy if I didn't want to partake in something with them: such as playing hookie or going to be mischievous. I never let their condescending remarks bring me down because I was content with my decision making skills. And you know what, I wouldn't change any of those decisions because I have always been a leader. The good thing about being a leader is there are always plenty of people willing to follow. I'm not saying its wrong to be a follower, as we need followers in this life.
I guess the point is YOU should choose to lead or follow -- if not get the fuck out of the way!
Being yourself is the MOST unique thing a homo sapien can do. I mean we all are pretty much the same so why not take advantage of the fact that you can be slightly different. NAS said it best, "There's no idea original under the sun, its not what you do but how it gets done." It's not being original per se, its just being yourself. For those of you in relationships, being the center of a social circle, etc, etc I advise you to take a little time out of the day for yourself. Don't let time pass you by without soaking up a few moments of it!
Anyhow, this is just a lighthearted blog today. The advice is for each and everyone of you to just be yourself, enjoy your own shoes and the way they feel: enjoy living in your skin and forget about what society has deemed as acceptable. TRUST ME, I get picked on all the time, especially by my siblings due to my sense of style (they think they're hot shit of course). The point is, to me I have a sense of style -- so why should I care what they think. It's easy to look like a robot, but it is damn hard to look like yourself.
SIDE NOTE: I finally saw Iron Man this past weekend, a lot of movies since 9/11 have made middle easterners evil villains. I was shocked to see that Iron Man was even getting in on the action LMAO. Who's next Batman, the Ninja Turtles? C'mon Hollywood, you keep recreating shit due to your lack of creativity and on top of that you have become complacent when it comes to the antagonist for the protagonist...shame, shame, shame!
~Walla
Last night, one of my close friends and I kicked it on my veranda and chatted it up, as usual. Naturally, we discussed a wide range of topics. One of the many that we discussed was an ongoing "beef" in my neighborhood from rival clicks. He brought up the fact that we knew a few people that weren't these quote on quote "gun toting low-lives" when we were in high school, yet now they consider themselves as the big bad wolf. Lmao! That's when I used another individual that we knew as an example who would have NEVER in a million years smoked weed in high school yet now in 2008 he's this big weed dealer.
See the point is/was this, a lot of people are to busy trying to be someone else instead of just being themselves. The old adage is (I will always use adages FYI) "you couldn't walk a day in my shoes." My response to that is why the hell would I, or anyone for that matter, want to wear someone else's sweaty raggedy shoes...eewww lmao!
I have a new lady friend that called me a dork yesterday b/c I told her I was doing some reading on homo sapiens. I could have taken the dork comment negatively but I didn't, after all how many dorks can be as cool, suave, and smooth as I am? As a young teen I never succumbed to peer pressure, sometimes my friends would call me a pussy, punk or sissy if I didn't want to partake in something with them: such as playing hookie or going to be mischievous. I never let their condescending remarks bring me down because I was content with my decision making skills. And you know what, I wouldn't change any of those decisions because I have always been a leader. The good thing about being a leader is there are always plenty of people willing to follow. I'm not saying its wrong to be a follower, as we need followers in this life.
I guess the point is YOU should choose to lead or follow -- if not get the fuck out of the way!
Being yourself is the MOST unique thing a homo sapien can do. I mean we all are pretty much the same so why not take advantage of the fact that you can be slightly different. NAS said it best, "There's no idea original under the sun, its not what you do but how it gets done." It's not being original per se, its just being yourself. For those of you in relationships, being the center of a social circle, etc, etc I advise you to take a little time out of the day for yourself. Don't let time pass you by without soaking up a few moments of it!
Anyhow, this is just a lighthearted blog today. The advice is for each and everyone of you to just be yourself, enjoy your own shoes and the way they feel: enjoy living in your skin and forget about what society has deemed as acceptable. TRUST ME, I get picked on all the time, especially by my siblings due to my sense of style (they think they're hot shit of course). The point is, to me I have a sense of style -- so why should I care what they think. It's easy to look like a robot, but it is damn hard to look like yourself.
SIDE NOTE: I finally saw Iron Man this past weekend, a lot of movies since 9/11 have made middle easterners evil villains. I was shocked to see that Iron Man was even getting in on the action LMAO. Who's next Batman, the Ninja Turtles? C'mon Hollywood, you keep recreating shit due to your lack of creativity and on top of that you have become complacent when it comes to the antagonist for the protagonist...shame, shame, shame!
~Walla
Monday, June 2, 2008
"LIKE A BOY"
What to write about today was the question that I mulled over all week. As versatile as I want to be to provide a variety of topics for you -- it's hard to just write about one thing especially when I want to write about EVERYTHING! Anywho, today I decided to cover how gender roles have been blurred and in some cases reversed amongst males and females.
Growing up it was very obvious that men weren't faithful, I mean come on, coming from a family of 17 (dad has 7 baby mothers) it was obvious and very natural to see that he was far from faithful. With that being said the first question you may have is well, did your mother stay with him? Yes she did, and she had 10 kids by him and YES they are still married.
Even though my dad was unfaithful, my mother NEVER cheated on him. In my eyes, as a young naive boy growing up, I guess, subconsciously I figured by turning the other cheek she maintained herself respect as a woman and mother. See many of us (especially nowadays) believe in an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.
Most of you are familiar with Ciara's hit single "Like A Boy" and it is that song that I choose to use as an example of how roles have been blurred. Times have changed, as change is life's only constant and with that change women have become more confident as well as more comfortable with the "It was just sex" attitude. Nowadays, if a guy cheats he won't be as lucky as my father, women are sneakier and in some cases more promiscuous than men are.
This "dating" game is saturated due to the fact that most people cannot remain faithful. But, truthfully why should they? It's not like human beings are monogamous creatures, so why is sex frowned upon. Especially when a woman is so open about it? For the fellas out there that are meeting new women look at it like this, you can meet a girl and assume that she has slept with say...a handful of guys but the truth is IF YOU have a track record why wouldn't SHE?
Ludacris said "We want a lady in the street but a freak in the bed" but that just isn't the case. The truth is MOST women are freaks, men wish they could tame it just for the bedroom but THEY have needs too. The old adage is if you can't take it don't dish it and THAT is the BIGGEST problem with guys, we want to be dirt digglers but a lot of us are ignorant that females can be too!
King Solomon had 500 wives, historically men are used to having more than one female but now females are used to having more than one male. They have taken the game over and because of this men have become soft -- almost lady like as women have been acting more "like a boy."
My question for the females out there (feel free to answer in a comment :) is well if you guys are used to calling us "dogs", and you want to act like a boy...then doesn't that make you a female dog i.e. a BITCH?
The fact of the matter is, in this world of technology, racy songs, movies, and society in general sex cannot be suppressed. It is out in the open and is being flaunted on every avenue up the strip and it isn't going anywhere. Does the promiscuity of women take away from them being a "lady" per se? And for the fellas out there that are so jealous and insecure does that make them almost if not fully soft or girl like? I mean, isn't jealousy "a female trait?"
I don't know where I'm going with this blog today to tell you the truth. I personally know a lot of girls that have slept with 10 - 20 guys before they even hit the age of 21! Can you imagine what its like b/w 21 and 30? And what about the poor sucker that feels he's met "the one" not knowing of his woman's deep dark past? Can a guy be informed of his woman's past and accept it? Should the truth be spoken? Do things in the dark really come to light?
And last but not least, have women become more promiscuous due to guys like my dad that were/are always popcorn playas? Is this cause and effect? Because of this will you, I, or anyone else ever be content with marriage? Can a male or female REALLY be faithful in this untrustworthy day and age?
I asked a lot of general questions today, I don't have all the answers and a lot of what I speak of is unfounded and just my mere opinion. The point is to open a dialog as I hope to get feedback from both genders to see if we are really different or INdifferent.
Later People! And Happy Birthday to CCC :)
Growing up it was very obvious that men weren't faithful, I mean come on, coming from a family of 17 (dad has 7 baby mothers) it was obvious and very natural to see that he was far from faithful. With that being said the first question you may have is well, did your mother stay with him? Yes she did, and she had 10 kids by him and YES they are still married.
Even though my dad was unfaithful, my mother NEVER cheated on him. In my eyes, as a young naive boy growing up, I guess, subconsciously I figured by turning the other cheek she maintained herself respect as a woman and mother. See many of us (especially nowadays) believe in an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.
Most of you are familiar with Ciara's hit single "Like A Boy" and it is that song that I choose to use as an example of how roles have been blurred. Times have changed, as change is life's only constant and with that change women have become more confident as well as more comfortable with the "It was just sex" attitude. Nowadays, if a guy cheats he won't be as lucky as my father, women are sneakier and in some cases more promiscuous than men are.
This "dating" game is saturated due to the fact that most people cannot remain faithful. But, truthfully why should they? It's not like human beings are monogamous creatures, so why is sex frowned upon. Especially when a woman is so open about it? For the fellas out there that are meeting new women look at it like this, you can meet a girl and assume that she has slept with say...a handful of guys but the truth is IF YOU have a track record why wouldn't SHE?
Ludacris said "We want a lady in the street but a freak in the bed" but that just isn't the case. The truth is MOST women are freaks, men wish they could tame it just for the bedroom but THEY have needs too. The old adage is if you can't take it don't dish it and THAT is the BIGGEST problem with guys, we want to be dirt digglers but a lot of us are ignorant that females can be too!
King Solomon had 500 wives, historically men are used to having more than one female but now females are used to having more than one male. They have taken the game over and because of this men have become soft -- almost lady like as women have been acting more "like a boy."
My question for the females out there (feel free to answer in a comment :) is well if you guys are used to calling us "dogs", and you want to act like a boy...then doesn't that make you a female dog i.e. a BITCH?
The fact of the matter is, in this world of technology, racy songs, movies, and society in general sex cannot be suppressed. It is out in the open and is being flaunted on every avenue up the strip and it isn't going anywhere. Does the promiscuity of women take away from them being a "lady" per se? And for the fellas out there that are so jealous and insecure does that make them almost if not fully soft or girl like? I mean, isn't jealousy "a female trait?"
I don't know where I'm going with this blog today to tell you the truth. I personally know a lot of girls that have slept with 10 - 20 guys before they even hit the age of 21! Can you imagine what its like b/w 21 and 30? And what about the poor sucker that feels he's met "the one" not knowing of his woman's deep dark past? Can a guy be informed of his woman's past and accept it? Should the truth be spoken? Do things in the dark really come to light?
And last but not least, have women become more promiscuous due to guys like my dad that were/are always popcorn playas? Is this cause and effect? Because of this will you, I, or anyone else ever be content with marriage? Can a male or female REALLY be faithful in this untrustworthy day and age?
I asked a lot of general questions today, I don't have all the answers and a lot of what I speak of is unfounded and just my mere opinion. The point is to open a dialog as I hope to get feedback from both genders to see if we are really different or INdifferent.
Later People! And Happy Birthday to CCC :)
Friday, May 30, 2008
The Beginning of the End (Part Deux)
As some of you may be expecting I am picking this blog up at Pt. 2 of where I left off which was "thus the speed of perception and lust has taken over the human psyche..."
After getting positive feedback from people that have read the blog I bumped into one of my most objective friends. He read my blog and went on to point out how subjective people are. He doesn't believe that perception and/or lust can take over the human psyche. He believes that at the end of the day, essentially, our story was written and was predestined to happen through cause and effect. It isn't that he believes in "fate" or "destiny" per se but more so in Karma, to him, both good and bad happen not because a person was foolish or because they deserved it..! His thought is that through a sequence of events -- consequence, circumstance, to love and to lose, etc, etc happen because it was supposed to.
Example: He went on to use as an example something he heard that recently happened to Sharon Stone. Apparently, her ads are being pulled for some endorsements she has over comments she made about China. Something to the effect of her saying that they have lost thousands in the earthquake due to what they have been doing to the Tibetan Monks. Thus her calling it Karma... Feeling the "Karma" of it herself by opening her mouth in the first place and criticizing them she has lost something of her own. This is when I asked him, "But doesn't/didn't she have a choice? Aren't we masters of our own fate?" He disagreed and said, "Eventhough we as humans may believe that we can come to a cross road and choose left or right that the point is it was destined to reach that particular cross road through actions and reactions...and it was destined for us to choose right or left."...Intriguing right!?
My next question for him was..."Well, if you believe in cause and effect and effect comes from the cause then what causes a cause?" We agreed that whether it is a cause of a cause or an effect of a cause the point is that it is ALL a chain reaction. He then went on further to use my own life experience against me citing that no matter what happened and how it went down in my personal life when it comes to my son and his mother that this was the way it was supposed to be.
This morning I thought about that deeply as I spoke to a good friend on my way to work. She and I discussed my old high school days, as she was interested to hear about all the fun I claimed to have had, as of course I did! As I flipped through my mental history pages, I cited my senior year and how I met my son's mother in Consumer Math Class. My good friend's next question was "Why did you have to take Consumer Math your senior year?" and I told her because I failed 10th grade math because we used to play checkers and have rubber band fights instead of caring about geometry. Well low and behold it hit me! I didn't necessarily choose to bullshit Geometry...it was written. I was suppose to fail it, I was suppose to take Consumer Math 2 years later and God damn it I was suppose to meet the mother of my child!
For years I've always told the story of how we met and attributed it to me almost making it out of High School a single and free man only to be duped into a relationship as we approached Prom and Graduation. But was I really "duped?" I mean, she literally sat right behind me and through cheating off of her class work she ended up liking me. To think I never knew this girl from a can of paint, we went to the same school for 4 YEARS and I had no idea who she was...and that fast it went from 0-60 for us, ultimately leading to a child as we progressed through our new found adulthood. Although I look back at it and may wish a few things may have happened differently, the point is, it wasn't anything I could do as our being together is an indirect yet direct effect of me failing 10th grade geometry. Then you say, well you could have just passed geometry and maybe the two of you could have gone the full 4 years without hooking up...my question is "could I have passed?" Wasn't I supposed to fail, wasn't I supposed to have this push over for a teacher just so that I could flip through the pages of my own personal life story?
The moral of this story is -- life is like a Video Camera that is constantly recording with NO second takes available. It is candid, raw, uncut and no matter what stresses us out, no matter how sad, mad, and/or angry we may get -- that a situation has happened, no matter how stupid you may feel in hindsight (which is 20/20), all the could of's, should of's and would of's JUST IS! We need to stop killing ourselves over it and just accept it or as my older cousin has taught me..."such is life!"
So such is life and with life as such we can be cautious, careful, and canny but it really means nothing. With the camera's rolling and all of us starring in our own TV shows all I can say at this point is "lights, camera, ACTION!"
Make sure y'all check out the BLOG on Monday, as I progress I look to cover topics such as religion, gender differences, race, politics, ignorance as well as an assortment of others...I think I could get use to this whole blogging thing.
Til then People!
After getting positive feedback from people that have read the blog I bumped into one of my most objective friends. He read my blog and went on to point out how subjective people are. He doesn't believe that perception and/or lust can take over the human psyche. He believes that at the end of the day, essentially, our story was written and was predestined to happen through cause and effect. It isn't that he believes in "fate" or "destiny" per se but more so in Karma, to him, both good and bad happen not because a person was foolish or because they deserved it..! His thought is that through a sequence of events -- consequence, circumstance, to love and to lose, etc, etc happen because it was supposed to.
Example: He went on to use as an example something he heard that recently happened to Sharon Stone. Apparently, her ads are being pulled for some endorsements she has over comments she made about China. Something to the effect of her saying that they have lost thousands in the earthquake due to what they have been doing to the Tibetan Monks. Thus her calling it Karma... Feeling the "Karma" of it herself by opening her mouth in the first place and criticizing them she has lost something of her own. This is when I asked him, "But doesn't/didn't she have a choice? Aren't we masters of our own fate?" He disagreed and said, "Eventhough we as humans may believe that we can come to a cross road and choose left or right that the point is it was destined to reach that particular cross road through actions and reactions...and it was destined for us to choose right or left."...Intriguing right!?
My next question for him was..."Well, if you believe in cause and effect and effect comes from the cause then what causes a cause?" We agreed that whether it is a cause of a cause or an effect of a cause the point is that it is ALL a chain reaction. He then went on further to use my own life experience against me citing that no matter what happened and how it went down in my personal life when it comes to my son and his mother that this was the way it was supposed to be.
This morning I thought about that deeply as I spoke to a good friend on my way to work. She and I discussed my old high school days, as she was interested to hear about all the fun I claimed to have had, as of course I did! As I flipped through my mental history pages, I cited my senior year and how I met my son's mother in Consumer Math Class. My good friend's next question was "Why did you have to take Consumer Math your senior year?" and I told her because I failed 10th grade math because we used to play checkers and have rubber band fights instead of caring about geometry. Well low and behold it hit me! I didn't necessarily choose to bullshit Geometry...it was written. I was suppose to fail it, I was suppose to take Consumer Math 2 years later and God damn it I was suppose to meet the mother of my child!
For years I've always told the story of how we met and attributed it to me almost making it out of High School a single and free man only to be duped into a relationship as we approached Prom and Graduation. But was I really "duped?" I mean, she literally sat right behind me and through cheating off of her class work she ended up liking me. To think I never knew this girl from a can of paint, we went to the same school for 4 YEARS and I had no idea who she was...and that fast it went from 0-60 for us, ultimately leading to a child as we progressed through our new found adulthood. Although I look back at it and may wish a few things may have happened differently, the point is, it wasn't anything I could do as our being together is an indirect yet direct effect of me failing 10th grade geometry. Then you say, well you could have just passed geometry and maybe the two of you could have gone the full 4 years without hooking up...my question is "could I have passed?" Wasn't I supposed to fail, wasn't I supposed to have this push over for a teacher just so that I could flip through the pages of my own personal life story?
The moral of this story is -- life is like a Video Camera that is constantly recording with NO second takes available. It is candid, raw, uncut and no matter what stresses us out, no matter how sad, mad, and/or angry we may get -- that a situation has happened, no matter how stupid you may feel in hindsight (which is 20/20), all the could of's, should of's and would of's JUST IS! We need to stop killing ourselves over it and just accept it or as my older cousin has taught me..."such is life!"
So such is life and with life as such we can be cautious, careful, and canny but it really means nothing. With the camera's rolling and all of us starring in our own TV shows all I can say at this point is "lights, camera, ACTION!"
Make sure y'all check out the BLOG on Monday, as I progress I look to cover topics such as religion, gender differences, race, politics, ignorance as well as an assortment of others...I think I could get use to this whole blogging thing.
Til then People!
Wednesday, May 28, 2008
Beginning of the End
Sometimes, if not all the time, it is hard to be true to one's self, much less to be true to someone you are interested in and vice versa. A lot of times...time in itself travels at the speed of light -- with love traveling right along side it. Imagine the speed of light as perception and traveling alongside of it instead of lust is love....
In this world/society of marriages and couples holding hands we as human beings (fancy word for walking, talking animal) put more pressure on ourselves mentally than any other creature on the planet. The old adage is "there is someone out there for everyone" but is that really true? Or is the truth that in our blurred perception of reality that we misconstrue lust for love?
Imagine meeting that someone and them sweeping you off your feet. As humans we love perception right? As a regular human being attention does wonders for self-esteem. And of course who doesn't want to be noticed and loved?
You think you and this person hit it off b/c you've hugged, kissed, gone places and alas...had intercourse! Now its time for stage two, now the pressure is: are we boyfriend and girlfriend, are we exclusive, etc, etc. In some cases, guys feel the female is pushing for some type of stability and because the sex is good the guy will settle for the "title" and vice versa.
Skip ahead, now you have been dating for 6 months and it feels like 6 years! You both claim to love one another, you speak about future plans, goals, aspirations, family etc. Things are good and your high on life...fast forward to 1 year and it feels like ten! Fast forward to 2 years and it feels as if your already married. Hell, you've probably moved in together and may have even done the most complicated thing you could do to further complicate the relationship...you go and get pregnant!
You think to yourself, "I love this person -- a kid is what we want right...?" hell you think it even more as you reach your climax in bed as you're unprotected and bust them nutz ("I love you baby...yesss bust in me!") What you haven't thought about or really experienced is how bills will be split and if -- as a unit you will actually be there as parents for the child. Hell, you don't even know if the two of you will last as a couple much less as a family...thus the speed of perception and lust has taken over the human psyche...
This, folks is what I like to so humbly call "THE BEGINNING OF THE END!" (PT.2 TOMORROW)
In this world/society of marriages and couples holding hands we as human beings (fancy word for walking, talking animal) put more pressure on ourselves mentally than any other creature on the planet. The old adage is "there is someone out there for everyone" but is that really true? Or is the truth that in our blurred perception of reality that we misconstrue lust for love?
Imagine meeting that someone and them sweeping you off your feet. As humans we love perception right? As a regular human being attention does wonders for self-esteem. And of course who doesn't want to be noticed and loved?
You think you and this person hit it off b/c you've hugged, kissed, gone places and alas...had intercourse! Now its time for stage two, now the pressure is: are we boyfriend and girlfriend, are we exclusive, etc, etc. In some cases, guys feel the female is pushing for some type of stability and because the sex is good the guy will settle for the "title" and vice versa.
Skip ahead, now you have been dating for 6 months and it feels like 6 years! You both claim to love one another, you speak about future plans, goals, aspirations, family etc. Things are good and your high on life...fast forward to 1 year and it feels like ten! Fast forward to 2 years and it feels as if your already married. Hell, you've probably moved in together and may have even done the most complicated thing you could do to further complicate the relationship...you go and get pregnant!
You think to yourself, "I love this person -- a kid is what we want right...?" hell you think it even more as you reach your climax in bed as you're unprotected and bust them nutz ("I love you baby...yesss bust in me!") What you haven't thought about or really experienced is how bills will be split and if -- as a unit you will actually be there as parents for the child. Hell, you don't even know if the two of you will last as a couple much less as a family...thus the speed of perception and lust has taken over the human psyche...
This, folks is what I like to so humbly call "THE BEGINNING OF THE END!" (PT.2 TOMORROW)
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